Conservative Culture

How do you know if that special relationship will last in a marriage? Interesting question. Obvious answers might say “Commitment”, “Common Values & Goals” and other words used to describe a good relationship. But what about the casual observer? What can you tell about the marriage on the day of the wedding?

I saw a interesting article on Pajamas Media written by AdviceGoddess.com. She mentions a wedding photographer who apparently is an astute observer of human nature.

It’s her belief that, if the man is nervous and the woman is calm, the marriage is a go. If, however, the woman is nervous and the man is calm, it means some thing’s wrong. She suggests that, “because the man traditionally bears the weight in the marriage” (as breadwinner, keeping the family together, etc.), if he isn’t nervous, it means he doesn’t grasp the commitment he’s making.

Having done a number of weddings I have seen this but without really paying attention. It really falls into line with what Gary Smalley used to teach about couples: (These are with broad strokes and don’t fit everyone) Women want primarily security in a relationship; Men want primarily significance.

A woman may be nervous about details but certainly I have seen uncertainty in the eyes of brides that were entering the relationship unsure of the other’s commitment. Keeping in line with the photographers observations, the man who isn’t the bit nervous hasn’t really given much thought about the depth of the commitment he is about to make. He almost thinks of it as a trivial event (though he would never say it to the bride). It becomes an event to simply be endured through, much like the upcoming ‘marriage.’

Whether it holds up is one thing. I do know that it will be something to observe in coming weddings I participate in or casually watch.

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(HT Dr. Sanity) Two articles on the facts about Iraq and ties to terror. Facts that need to be released. One is by William Kristol here.

The second article that is a good read is Stephen Hayes article on Saddam’s Terror Training Camps.

How would WW2 been different if people had listened to people like Howard Dean? Good questions. Sprechen Sie Deutsch?

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The following words were sent by cable after the Mark Twain’s obituary had mistakenly been published.

The reports of my death are greatly exaggerated - Mark Twain

The news briefing still has Sharon alive. Unfortunately he is unable to talk for himself. It appears they are ‘mulling’ over taking him out of a deep comma. Certainly that is the nearest thing to death. Questions remain as to what will happen. Will he come out of it with brain activity that will resemble anything that will be able to function. It amazes me that anyone would suggest that he might return to power. Certainly it will be an achievement if Sharon will be able to function without life support. But as the saying goes.. only time will tell.

But there is one report that still verifies the original take on Sharon dies. From the Israeli Insider who points out:

An early report stated that Israel’s Prime Minister Ariel Sharon is dead after suffering a massive stroke - a brain hemorrhage which resulted in a 7 hour brain surgery. Then his doctors put him into an “induced coma”, that is, totally sedated with anesthetic - with machines maintaining his bodily functions. Later reports insisted that he was alive.

Sounds like the lost him but did the only thing they could do in hopes that the his condition might turn around.

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